The women (especially the younger ones) at the family courts that helped you with your restraining order, or any local community services for women, may be able to help you with the technical side of things if you call and ask.
Abuse using technology is a lot more common than you think, so they should have a set of procedures for you to go through.
You could speak to your lawyer about getting a court order to have the police retrieve the main unit and any other speakers, cameras etc that went with it. I’m trying to figure out exactly what he can do with the main one, because if you’ve reset your passwords and reset all of your speakers, that should be sufficient. But he could have copied all of the info already onto his system. Also it depends on what you’ve allowed to be shared with him when together (like calendars, location etc) and what email you have used as a backup to reset your password or what you’ve used for 2FA.
I think that speaking to Google help directly would be a safer bet, than asking us though TBH.
I’ve been in a scary domestic violence situation where I left the state. So I know that it’s better to err on the side of caution.
I would close all of your emails. Open new ones using a new phone #. Speak to Google about your situation and how to make sure that your new accounts are not connected to the old ones in any way. Hard reset any Google speakers etc that you have in the home too.
Tablets, phones, laptops, consoles, all of it will need to be looked through. Make sure that nothing has a tracker or a “find my” on it.
Does he own the Microsoft account that your computers and laptops with Windows on it, belong to?
I would get a new cell number and only give it to those you trust.
I would have seperate cheap burner sims for you and the kids, so that if a mistake is made, the sim can be dumped. Even a cheap set of phones for the time being, until you can get your main ones checked.
Invest in a vpn for all tech.
I use a modem with built-in vpn and a router (not mesh) specifically for IOTs like bulbs, Google home, plugs, smart TVs etc.
I also have an iPhone with built-in vpn, for when I’m out and about. I never use any free wifi, but you can get that on Android for cheaper, I’m just not very phone savvy. Don’t forget about the kids tablets and laptops in regard to VPNs and no using free wifi.
Scan everything for spyware.
If you don’t know how, call a tech professional to do it.
But it sounds like your main issue is your Google accounts and any emails + phone numbers.
I’d speak to Google and ask how to close them completely. And make sure that you use a new phone number when opening a new Google email, so that it doesn’t link to the old one.
Dont reuse any passwords or use dates that are important to you. Use a password manager.
Ask them how to hard reset any Google home hardware, so that you can use your new Google email/ID for it.
Lots of positive thoughts.
I hope that someone has a better answer for you. I know it’s a terrifying time and every noise makes you jump.
A trip to the Hardware Store and some padlocks on my gates, made me feel a lot safer when we settled down. Just have a fire-safe plan.
Stay safe🤗🤍
